The more you know about your sexual psyche, the better sex
will be
Take expert Tracey Cox's quiz to find out what kind of lover
you are
Answers will help you understand how sex affects you and
motivates you
By TRACEY COX FOR BE INFORMED
PUBLISHED: 06:49 GMT, 17 August 2016 | UPDATED: 10:21 GMT,
17 August 2016
The more you know about your sexual psyche, the better your
sex life is likely to be - especially if you're female.
This quiz helps you to understand your prime motivations for
sex and how it affects you emotionally as well as physically.
Find out the sort of lover you are by choosing the answer
that most accurately describes you:
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This quiz will help you to understand your prime motivations
for sex and how it affects you emotionally as well as physically
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1. When I was young I had fantasies about what sex would be
like. It's turned out to be:
a Better or as good as I'd imagined.
b Pretty much what I thought, though I fantasised more about
love and the relationship than I did sex.
c It's what I assumed it would be: mostly good but it's not
the be all and end all of life
2. If my partner found out what my deepest, darkest
fantasies are, he'd be:
a Turned on but not shocked. I enjoy fantasising but don't
really fantasise about anything particularly out there.
b I don't really fantasise though I have talked dirty in bed
to please my partner.
c Turned on but not surprised. We often role-play and talk
dirty so he knows most of them anyway.
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Tracey Cox says that this quiz will help you to determine
the sort of lover you are, which is important to working out what your sexual
pysche is like
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3 Losing my virginity was:
a The predictable fumble. Clumsy but it still left me keen
to explore.
b Anxious. I didn't really know what to expect and was
relieved when it was over.
c A big deal. It was with a long-term boyfriend and we spent
a lot of time planning it so it would be special.
4 My parent's attitude to sex was:
a It wasn't really mentioned but there was nothing
particularly negative said.
b It's something enjoyable that you do with someone you
loved when you're grown up.
c You saved it for when you were married or at least
engaged.
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Would your partner be shocked if he found out what your
fantasies are, or do you already talk to them? Your answer will show what kind
of lover you are
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5 If I had to guess, I'd describe my parent's sex life as:
a Active. They're very affectionate with each other so I'm
assuming this carries through into the bedroom.
b They'd joke about Sat night being 'date night' so I'm
guessing they had it weekly.
c Active. I'd guess they have sex regularly - maybe even
naughty sex!
6 If I feel like sex, I'm most likely to:
a Instigate it by making a move. I have no problems letting
him know when and how I want sex.
b Start kissing him and cuddle up, in the hope that he'll
get the hint.
c One of us prefers initiating and the other is happy with
that arrangement.
7 Masturbating is something I do:
a If my partner is away or we're separated for a while.
b Not often if I'm in a relationship.
c Regularly, whether I'm with or without a partner.
Sometimes I'll do it in front of him.
8. The average number of partners for women, globally, for a
lifetime is nine. How does this make you feel?
a Like laughing. I clocked up that many by the time I was in
my early 20s.
b I'm under average and hoping this partner will be my last.
c I stay with my partners a long time so don't expect I'll
come anywhere near it.
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Your ability to orgasm and how much sex you like to have
every week will give you an indication of the type of partner you would be best
suited to
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9. Once I'm settled into the relationship, my idea of the
perfect amount of sex sessions per week is:
a Once a week.
b Two to three times.
c Four to five times.
10 I'm able to orgasm:
a Easily both on my own and with my partner.
b Solo and with my partner but only through a certain tried
and tested technique.
c Easily on your own but find it hard with a partner.
11. When I undress in front of my partner I:
a Get changed in the bathroom into PJ's. I'm happier dressed
than naked.
b Tease him a little. I'm confident of my body.
c Feel quite comfortable. He accepts me flaws and all.
Our initial sex experiences are formative and shape the sort
of sex we have in the future. If yours were good, it sets you up for a lifetime
of uninhibited sex and bestowing a glorious lack of sexual guilt
12. If I don't orgasm with my partner, I would:
a Normally confess. But if he was doing everything right and
it was just an off day, sometimes I'll lie.
b Confess. I don't feel the need to lie and don't see the
point.
c Confess but it doesn't often happen because we have a
tried-and-true technique that we always use.
Beware of always needing 'perfect' conditions to have sex
in. Relationships aren't always going to be perfect, so sex isn't either
SCORING:
Count up how many of each letter you score to find your
corresponding type. If your scores fall between two types, it's possible you
share characteristics of each.
a. L b. I c. C
a. I b. C c. L
a. L b. C c. I
a. C b. L c. I
a. I b.C c. L
a. L b. I c. C
a. I b. C. c. L
a. L b. I c. C
a. C b. I c. L
a. L b. C c. I
a. C b. L c. I
a. I b. L c. C
YOUR SEX PROFILE:
Mostly 'L' answers:
LUST AND ADVENTURE
Our initial sex experiences are formative and shape the sort
of sex we have in the future. Yours were good, setting you up for a lifetime of
uninhibited sex and bestowing a glorious lack of sexual guilt.
Actively needing and seeking adventure and novelty, you've got
a high sex drive and are highly motivated to satisfy it.
Your ideal partner also has a high sex drive but you could
match happily with someone who has an average or even low libido because your
desire for sex is so high, you'll put the effort in to capture their interest
and constantly come up with new things to keep it interesting.
What will cause problems is a partner who isn't grateful or
interested in making sex a priority.
You also need to accept that even the best relationships
have highs and lows. It doesn't mean you're not in lust anymore if you're not
ripping each other's clothes off every night.
Mostly 'I's:
INTIMACY AND CONNECTION
For you, sex is more about expressing love and feelings than
it is a physical release. You're less interested in sexual performance and more
focused on the emotional benefits of sex: intimacy rather than orgasm is your
aim.
You're a forgiving lover and so long as you feel your
partner loves you, will tolerate most sex drives. You're realistic about sex so
reasonably easy to please in a physical sense.
The whole point of having sex, for you, is to feel closer
and connected to your partner. If that's missing, you won't enjoy it.
Areas to watch out for: you're more inclined to cuddle up
than initiate sex, so you should probably try to take the lead a little more
often.
Also beware of always needing 'perfect' conditions to have
sex in. Relationships aren't always going to be perfect, so sex isn't either.
Mostly 'C's
COMFORT AND FAMILIARITY
You're a person who likes routine both in and out of the
bedroom. You dislike change and find it quite stressful so impromptu sexual
surprises aren't welcome - predictable sex that follows a tried-and-true set
pattern is your idea of sexual nirvana.
Others might look in and find your sex life a little dull
but, in fact, you orgasm easily with your partner.
Because you stick to the same method, the path to orgasm is
well-travelled and if you train your body to orgasm a certain way, it reads the
signposts easily, identifying predictable triggers to tip you over the edge.
Your ideal match sexually is someone like you - more
interested in good, regular, satisfying sex than trying new things that might
possibly backfire.
Just remember: a certain amount of predictability can be
comforting, too much desensitises. Try to push at least a little out of your
comfort zone to build your sexual confidence.
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